Average Girl: Valentine’s Week Edition
First of all, Happy Valentine's Day. No I don't hate the holiday because I am single, I hate it in general.. Too much hype and pressure, which lead to disappointment.
Anyway..
The time has come and my mother has started to get on my case about finding a boyfriend. A lot of my friends are starting to get married, and here I am.. Single.. Plus she wants grandbabies; my nephews are young men now (8,10, and 12), so I am her only hope.
I called my mom to tell her some good news.. Here is how the conversation went.
Me: Mom, want to hear some good news?
Mom: You got a new job?!
Me: No, even more exciting!
Mom: You got engaged!!!!
Yes mother, to the boyfriend you have never met…. Mail ordered him yesterday..
To her defense, she says she just wants to have reassurance I am protected. She wouldn’t have to worry about me as much if she knew I had a man that was always waiting for me to get home, or to come change my tire if it were flat.
I guess I had always pictured myself settling down in the next couple years. Married by 25, kids by 27 or so.. But that time is coming and I have not even started the first step of the process.
I like to think that I just hold high standards. I have been in some disastrous relationships, which I know are essential to appreciate when you find the right one. So I know I will not just settle..
However, my friend and I were discussing the other night that all the good guys are going to be gone soon. It seems like every time we see a man we are attracted to, he is either married, engaged, or in a relationship.. And if he is single, there is a reason…
Let’s say I am going to satisfy my mother, here are a couple of places she has suggested I meet a man.. And my thoughts against it.
Church: Yes I should go to church more, I agree. However, how am I going to meet a man there? “Sign of peace, let’s date?”
Online: I know dating sites are becoming more and more popular, but my concern is.. You meet someone on there and start casually dating.. But they are still talking to several other women. When does this stop? My ex was cheating on me by being on a dating site while we dated, and I had to find out from an old college friend, who recognized him from my Facebook pictures.. I guess I am just worried it makes it too easy to be playing multiple people..
The bar: I understand many people have met their significant other at a bar. But in return, nothing good happens after 2 am either. Being under the influence might not always be the best judge of character..
Through friends: It seems like I hang out with all couples or friends that have significant others. And blind dates: do they really think you’d be a good match or is it because you are their only two single friends left?
So what else does that leave? I have lost hope that we are going to collide carts at the grocery store, and usually when I am shopping, I am in sweats with my hair on top my head, far from “love at first sight” status..
How did you meet your better half?!
Or any date horror stories?!
Hi Sam!
ReplyDeleteI just wanted to comment on my opinion on us girls who are not settled down yet...I may not be married or have had the worst dating stories in the world, but I think that you don't meet your future husband by any of these..it just kind of happens! My parents met at Drunk Driving School and have been happily married for 25 years!! I guess I see it as you are one of two girls..You either find the one you marry early and marry by 25 or you decide to focus on your career and find love at a later time. You just can't do both. I personally think having an established career first was important first because you never know where it will take you and you don't want to pass up an opportunity because you are attached and they don't want to move! So don't worry too much and tell your mom that your time will come!